When commenting at Bondage Diaries, users are expected to agree to and abide by the following:

  • All commenters must be 18 years of age or older.
  • This website should be considered a scene venue.  The normal rules of consent and other scene etiquette apply.
  • All users should be treated with the utmost respect.
  • Do not post content here that belongs to a third party without their express consent.
  • No “outing”.  Do not discuss a person’s real-life identity without their express consent.  Likewise, you are responsible for not accidentally “outing” yourself if you don’t want to “out” yourself.
  • Do not use gendered pronouns to refer to a person without knowing for certain which pronouns that person prefers.
  • Listen to your conscience.  If that little voice in your head tells you that you probably shouldn’t say something, then don’t say it.

All comments on Bondage Diaries must be approved by the blog author before they appear on the site.  However, at the same time, all commenters are solely responsible for their own comments.


The purpose of Bondage Diaries is to allow discussion about the BDSM scene in a way that is respectful of the privacy of the blog author and of commenters.  That said, any nonpublic personal information that the site receives will not be disclosed to any third party except where required by law.

Users are required by the comment system to include an email address when posting a comment.  This address will not be disclosed to any third party (unless required by law).  I recommend getting a separate email address specifically for scene correspondence.

The comment system uses Akismet to help filter spam posts out of the comments.

This site uses Google Analytics and Jetpack to collect information about how the site is used.  The sharing settings for Google Analytics are set to the most restrictive settings possible.

Copyright and reuse of material

The material posted on this site is fully copyrighted, i.e. all rights reserved.  In the BDSM scene, all activities must occur between consenting adults, and each party is free to decline to give consent.  Likewise, if you would like to use material that you find on this site elsewhere, I request that you please ask and get my consent before reusing any material found here.  No one likes nonconsensual activity, after all.